In a 10 - 15 call or video, you will have an opportunity to ask questions and I will share a bit about what it might be like if we work together.
I’ll ask if you have had therapy before and if so, what worked and what didn’t? I’m also interested to know what prompted you to seek therapy now. We won’t get much into content, just enough to know if working together is a good fit.
In our first session, we will go over informed consent. This legal and ethical document covers confidentiality, how we communicate, payment, and the nature, risks and benefits of treatment. This conversation goes beyond signing on a dotted line. It is integrated throughout our time together and can be revisited at any point.
Next, I will gather whatever personal history you are willing to share, find out more about successes and struggles, and learn your goals and expectations.
This part can vary quite a bit. Periodically I will reflect what I am hearing in my own words to make sure I am conceptualizing correctly, I will frequently ask questions to clarify or expand what is being said, I might offer some psycho-ed to broaden your understanding of what is happening, and I may challenge you or your language.
There might be laughter, tears, reflection, ruptures, repairs, silence or a number of other things. Whatever comes, it will be at your pace. I am trained to recognize your window of tolerance and know how to expand those edges while working within them. This is where I tell you, it may get worse before it gets better. But in my experience, it does get better.
It is not uncommon for your goals to shift and ebb and flow. The thing is, life will keep happening while we meet. This may add things you did not expect, or resolve what once caused you trouble. And of course, as you dive in, it is probable you will discover thoughts and feelings you didn't know existed.
The entire time, we will be keeping an eye on closure and when working together is no longer necessary for you. It could be months or years, but it shouldn't catch us off guard. It is easy to recognize what is causing you discomfort, together we will learn to recognize your resilience and strengthen your belief in your ability move through coping and into living. Good living, according to how you define that.
If I am not the right fit for you, I will do what I can to offer alternative referrals. If you are fortunate enough to have options, don't settle or compromise. Ask tough questions, make requests, and trust your instincts. Best of luck in your search, and don't give up! Because we can't see miracles, you won't know if you stop walking to yours a step short.
I trust the ones who are always seeking to grow.